3 John 13 (NET): I have many things to write to you, but I do not wish to write to you with pen and ink.

John begins his conclusion of this letter to Gaius with a simple phrase. It would be easy to breeze over, and not give much thought to what is being said. However, if we pause and review this verse in the totality of this letter, I believe much can be drawn from it.

We must acknowledge Johns influence on Gaius, and the tireless real work of relationships.

He has “many things” to write. John has a lot to say. He is deeply concerned with Gaius and he has carefully dictated the most appropriate and timely information into this brief letter by the direction of the Holy Spirits prompting. John’s aim is to equip and prepare Gaius for this specific season of his ministry and to address the present challenges, although there is more he would like to offer. 

Again, we can only assume that Gaius was a disciple of John, but we know he continues to be a colaborer in Christ. John has authority in some degree, and we acknowledge that Gaius is humbly submitting to his leadership. As such, we can likewise expect Gaius is eager to receive more instruction and assistance from John.

This is a healthy reminder that we should willingly submit to our faithful elders and leaders, and be faithful to our role in equipping, teaching, assisting and discipling others.

We must always remember that we are part of the body. Not spiritual Rambos. 

When we elevate the importance of God glorifying relationships, we treasure them and invest ourselves into them. It is not sufficient for John to just write Gaius from afar. We don’t know what else must be said, but John doesn’t want to have a one way conversation. Relationships, especially those which God uses to build the house of faith, require deep and meaningful connection. We were made for it. 

There are of course times in our lives when we cannot afford to be in person, and I recognize the importance (and grace) of technology. Phones calls, texts, emails, Zoom and Blogs. These can all be beneficial for ministry, and can be tools leaders use to connect. But we must remember the power of presence, and seek to invest into deep and meaningful time together to build relationships!

Peace be with you